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The world lost a truly amazing human being this week. On Tuesday May 3, 2022 Norman Y. Mineta passed on from this earthly plane. I will share all the reasons that the world recognizes him as an amazing human but before I go there I want to share who he will always be to me and my family.


Norm, as we called him, was a beloved friend. Our paths crossed many years ago when he married my dear friend Deni. I have known Deni for close to 5 decades and our lives have been intertwined in the most beautiful way. My family and I enjoyed the friendship and love of Norm and Deni and their 4 sons and 11 grandchildren—a blended family full of love, happiness, and generosity. Deni and I go way back even before we invited our husbands Norm and Gene into our hearts. When we married these wonderful men as good fortune would have it they loved each other as well. A real bonus for me and Deni.


When Deni married Norm not only did he come to be a dear friend, the kind that is in that close circle around my heart, but I also gained an impenetrable connection to my most incredible role model and mentor for me personally as an advocate for humanity. I feel truly blessed that over the years our families have celebrated many holidays, birthdays, weddings, and milestones together. My husband and I loved spending time with Norm and Deni, and despite our families moving around we always found ourselves connecting as if no time had passed between visits. Our individual journeys and backgrounds were vastly distinct, yet we shared so many similarities and differences which we accepted and embraced. We learned from one another's cultures with the kind of jocular humor that grows from closeness and love. Our greatest similarity was palpable. Our love for one another.

Norm, lovingly called me Cleopatra, and for many decades he shared his wisdom about navigating the gnarly terrain of racism and bigotry. I will miss that. All of it. To witness his astonishing accomplishments throughout his career gave me pause and inspiration as to what can be accomplished. Our Norm was a loving husband and father and a devoted and loyal friend. In his impressive 10-term service to this country as a California Congressmen and then in the US Cabinet, he served this country during one of the most tumultuous eras we experienced. His service after September 11th helped bring this country back from the devastation we faced. I will never forget the sincere concern that he expressed as he took the time to listen and be concerned about my husband and his location in Washington D.C. near the Pentagon on that fateful day.


My children are devastated right alongside Deni and their children and grandchildren. We’ve lost a family member. Last year when Gene and I celebrated our 40th anniversary with a vow renewal ceremony Norm and Deni were there, as always. We didn’t know that it would be the last time we would see him. We hugged and our family was unaware that we were saying goodbye as well as hello as the pandemic had kept us apart. Well, goodbye for now Norm. We will see you on the other side….. Knowing you are there with my "M team" is comforting. I know you will be guiding me from above so say hello to my spiritual team Martin, Maya, Malcolm, Morrison, Mandela, and now you, Mineta. I’ve already received a God wink.


The public Norman Y. Mineta was a man who embodied the epitome of integrity and authenticity as a public servant. His work in aviation and transportation changed the fundamental building blocks of how this country navigates, quite literally. We owe Norm a deep debt of gratitude for everything he did for us and for everything his legacy continues to provide for this country and for the world.

Norm’s life is an incredible story of overcoming adversity, discrimination, and injustice and, despite it all, he had the courage and compassion to transform the world for the better. His “childhood-scarring experiences in an American internment camp”, as the New York Times states, served as a catalyst for his amazing work sponsoring the Civil Liberties Act of 1988 and made him a true Advocate for human rights in all of his endeavors.


He co-founded the Congressional Asian Pacific American Caucus and lead a multitude of commissions and administrations in both the federal and private sectors. After September 11th, Norm’s composure and trustworthiness have become a shining light even when we recall some of our darkest days. In the reports after the attacks, it was confirmed that in the minutes after the attacks, Norm was with Vice President Cheney in the Presidential Emergency Operation Center. He was instrumental in securing the safety of the US by implementing orders to ground all civilian aircraft with decisive authority and composed action while the rest of the world scrambled to find stable ground.


After September 11th, Norm forbade all US airlines from practicing racial profiling; or subjecting Middle Eastern or Muslim passengers to a heightened degree of pre-flight scrutiny—though his orders were violated by almost all of the airlines due to overwhelming uncertainty and fear. He stated that it was illegal for the airlines to discriminate against passengers based on their race, color, national or ethnic origin, or religion, and when the airlines undoubtedly violated his orders he remained steadfast as he fought against the blatant discrimination. He showed his intention "absolutely not" to implement racial screenings in reply to the question from Steve Kroft on 60 Minutes. He later recalled his decision "was the right thing (and) constitutional", based on his own experience as one of the Japanese-Americans who had "lost the most basic human rights" by being discriminated against and interned during the Pacific War. Throughout his political and private sector career Norm had always championed equal rights and fought against discrimination no matter the situation. He was a true Advocate and Ally for humanity.


Norm was the first in many different fields and areas and accrued an impressive list of achievements. He was the first Asian American to serve as vice mayor and then mayor of a major American city when he was elected to serve the city of San Jose, California in 1967 until 1975. He served nearly 21 years in the House of Representatives, where he was credited with helping to advance hundreds of bills for transportation improvements, economic development, trade, the environment, civil rights, and science and technology projects—many of which continue to shape the future of politics and US history. In 2000 he became the nation’s first Asian American cabinet official when he took the role of Secretary of Commerce. In 2001 Norm was appointed Secretary of Transportation, making him once again the first Asian American to hold the position. When Norm decided to leave office after serving under 2 presidencies and as the fourth person in history to hold office under a Democratic and Republican president, he became the longest-serving Secretary of Transportation in US history. In conjunction with his long list of achievements, Norm had many landmarks and locations dedicated in his honor. San Jose’s airport was renamed “Norman Y. Mineta San Jose International Airport” to honor his role in advancing the US transportation infrastructure. The Mineta Transportation Institute, located at San Jose State University, and portions of California State Highway 85 are also dedicated to Norm’s legacy. Norm received many awards and honors throughout his life including the Presidential Medal of Freedom, The Wright Brothers Memorial Trophy, the Golden Plate Award of the American Academy of Achievement, and the L. Welch Pogue Award for Lifetime Achievement in Aviation.


Norm was kind, incredibly intelligent, and wonderfully witty. His calm demeanor put people at ease and was a soothing balm for the soul. He was funny and serious, quiet but powerful, impressive and humble, and impossible not to love.




Many readers have asked me to share some of the details of my journey. I was recently interviewed by Anne Robie and Sherry Essig on their podcast Flowing East & West. I dive into a few details of my journey but I would like to take you on an exploration deeper into a few important moments in my life.


Throughout the month of May, I will be continuing this exploration as I invite you for you a glimpse into my life.


I have spent most of my life with a deep awareness of racism, discrimination, and what we now describe as “othering”, or marginalization. Many of us have adopted this terminology that identifies the social construct of perceived value based on some dimension of our diversity Over the years I have been asked how my journey started and how I got into this work—the truth is I was born with a purpose and knew very early on that my life was meant for something greater than my self. While I now reside in California, I was born and grew up in New York City. I watched the marching and fighting for human rights during the Civil Rights Movement. I couldn’t wait until I was old enough to don my white Go-Go boots and mini skirts to enter the fray.


My life continued to evolve in ways that kept me grounded and rooted in the battles for the very soul of our individual and collective humanity. My work brought me into boardrooms and face-to-face with high-level senior management teams. I knew my presence was usually a new experience for people at the highest level where black women may not have been welcomed or expected. Over the years I encountered the highs and lows of humanity through the way organizations curated and cultivated their culture. I was determined to expand my approach to bring more awareness and depth to the traditional diversity and inclusion (D&I) work.


My quest began for more information about team building tools and personality assessment—a quick Google search brought me to the Enneagram Institute. I was off on a journey that took me beyond the belief that I had to find a destination for the journey’s end. There was no looking back at this point. I did not expect the Enneagram journey to lead me down a path directly into the heart of humanity.


Ultimately my work evolved and I transitioned to doing more work as an Executive coach and less as a psychotherapist. My company became more actively focused on consulting and coaching in the IDEA (Inclusion, Diversity, Equity, Anti-Racism) space. I believed that this was the place where I could help to create a safe space for individuals to speak their truth and to be who they were created to be.


Within the past decade or so I have witnessed a dark cloud cast a shadow over humanity. People have become disconnected from their empathy, compassion, kindness, and the basic human capacity for loving one another. We will have to take a leap of faith to build the bridges and reconnect to one another. With my faith as my strength and the Enneagram as my roadmap, I have been able to continue working on those bridges to reconnect humankind. If we work towards this together, all things are possible.


Come back next week for a glimpse into my early childhood and follow me on my journey throughout the month of May.


Updated: Apr 21, 2022


Consider two humans, miles apart, across multiple dimensions of diversity, and with no obvious connections. They live in separate spheres of existence and their lives may never overlap. As we are all one Human race, the reality is that the energy of their existence does in fact overlap. Some may call it the “butterfly effect” or a “domino reaction”. I feel it is best illustrated as a ripple in the pond; a small droplet of water causing a reverberation that extends infinitely outward.


The butterfly effect in chaos theory demonstrates the phenomenon whereby a minute localized change in a complex system can have large effects elsewhere. The domino effect illustrates the cumulative effect that results when one event precipitates a series of like events. By combining these two concepts, we can begin to see the world and the actions we take through the metaphor of the ripples in a pond.

Small actions rooted in love can generate a series of similar actions that eventually can be felt on a global scale. Small actions, taken every day, sending the energy of hope and kindness, love, and compassion will encourage others to send out their own ripples.


Love and compassion lead us, as connected human beings, to extend kindness to other humans. We can learn to show compassion and consideration across all dimensions of our diversity and intentionally build connections that will foster hope and goodwill.


Recently I have received many messages from people all across the globe who are feeling hopeless and helpless in regard to the war in Ukraine. Their messages are filled with words of compassion and empathy but tend to end with the desire to do more and frustration at their inability to do so. I get it. I feel their pain and I share the weight of their disheartenment. In these moments we learn to find and transform into the light in the darkness. We hold onto hope and send ripples of love, generosity, and benevolence to impact the world in a thoughtful way. We may not end the war with a single act of kindness but we can make an intentional shift to bring peace and love where it is most needed.


Start with a small change in how you react to conflict and challenges. Take a moment to pause and find the ability to calm your inner narrative. In Know Justice Know Peace I expand upon this practice:


“When we approach conflicts around our different dimensions of diversity many people revert to an ‘us versus them’ or a 'me versus you' perspective. The predisposition towards disconnection has become a natural way of navigating challenges for most of us, and if we are to evolve as a species we must be willing to acknowledge our connectedness as a single human race.”


Reflect on your inner narrative and find where you may be employing an “us versus them” or a “me versus you” approach to conflict. How can you begin to change your impulse to separate people into categories or opposing forces that must be combated? What is behind your judgemental thoughts and actions? Are you looking for ways to justify your own unkind behavior?


Challenging your inner narrative is one of the first steps of the inner work. It is a meaningful step on the path toward reconnecting to our humanity and healing our fractured society.


Sending you love and light to add to the ripples in your pond.

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